Knowing how to attract girls is the single most significant thing you can do right now to enhance your dating life.
Every Saturday night, countless guys around the planet, from New Jersey to China, splash on their cologne and head to the popular pickup spots in the hopes of finding a girl. Of course, they might act like they're only stepping out for a few drinks with their friends, but loads of them are actually hoping to get lucky tonight with a .
And that's where they make their first error: viewing their mission tonight in terms of "getting lucky." A lot of men really believe that scoring with a girl at a bar is about luck, fate, or happening to be in the right place at the perfect time.
Guys like these don't understand that when it comes to how to approach women, there are some "classic errors" that guys make on a regular basis -- tarnishing their chances without even realizing it -- and that there are dependable STRATEGIES you can use to just about guarantee strong results.
In the view of one guy, "success" might mean having a conversation with a cool girl and going home with her phone number. For guys who've mastered the "game" of pickup, success is defined differently. Ask them about how to approach women, and they'll say that anything less than a "same night lay" -- bringing a stunner home with them TONIGHT -- is a waste of a night.
Of course, the predicament is that more than 90% of guys have no idea how to attract girls. The reality is, they are too intimidated to approach women because of the large amount of UNCERTAINTY involved.
Think about it. What races through your thoughts when you notice a girl at a nightclub that you would love to approach? You might be thinking something like...
"A girl who is that pretty must already have a boyfriend."
"A guy like me isn't her type."
"She doesn't look like she's in the mood to be approached."
And then of course, there's the timeless male excuse...
"I want to move toward that girl, but I have no idea what to say!"
In this situation, what's happeningis that you are merely imagining the possible NEGATIVE outcomes. This is because you've trained yourself to think that the most likely conclusion, when you aim to approach women, is that women will ignore you or simply won't be interested.
And so of course, for men who have no idea how to approach women, this often becomes the conclusion. After suffering through this awkward process dozens, perhaps hundreds of times, these men stop trying to talk to girls altogether.
This type of guy will think , "why should I even try? She's simply going to react the way the last 46 girls did. She won't be interested for whatever reason, and then I'll have to endure the humiliation of retreating and feeling like a reject."
I'm here to tell you that you can be taught how to approach women in a way that is confident, playful and most of all STRATEGIC. We've got some very cool, specific "openers" you can make use of with hot chicks that will make them smile, and engage their interest.
We've tested each of these powerful approach tactics out in the field THOUSANDS of times, to make sure these are the very BEST ways to "break the ice" and initiate an interaction.
Women WON'T see you as some clumsy, insecure dude who is hoping to NOT get dissed. Rather, women will instantly feel that you're a guy who can add MORE FUN to their night.
Friday, May 14, 2010
Thursday, May 13, 2010
Tips For Meet Girls And Starting A Conversation
Over the course of my long career as a dating trainer, I've taught thousands of guys how to meet girls in all types of situations. A lot of my students have been extremely successful. I've seen shy students who were terrified to try to talk to women turn into "approach machines" who all of a sudden began to meet new women all the time (even while walking down the street!) -- and got more phone numbers than they knew what to do with!
It's been gratifying to watch extremely quiet students of mine, who were once scared to meet girls and clueless about how to approach women, transform into "approach machines" who could meet new women every day (even while simply walking down the street!) and continually score digits, dates and even hook-ups the same night.
I'm not talking about an ordinary female here; I'm talking about a stone-cold stunner. You know, the kind of hottie who, when she strolls into a room, causes every guy in the area to stop and look.
So what is the most effective way to approach a girl like THAT? The answer, actually, is quite easy: you use the same approach techniques that I advise you use with any woman, but after you use one of my "transition" moves to engage her in the conversation, you use Teases and Cold Reads to NEUTRALIZE her "hotness factor" and actually use it to your advantage.
What are Teases and Cold Reads? Well, they're two very powerful strategies that you should use when you flirt with women. Essentially, these are a couple of my favorite conversational "weapons."
For the purposes of this article, I'll just tell you real quick that Teases are things that you say to women in a playful way, that plant a very important idea in their brains: that you are NOT an ordinary guy who is bowled over and taken aback by how gorgeous she may be.
When you tease a stunner (the RIGHT way), you're framing the encounter as if you are already familar and comfortable with her, which prompts her to feel the same way with you. When you're hanging out with someone you've known for a while, you're naturally going to tease and joke around with that person. And so, when you tease a scorching-hot stunner, you're planting the seed in her mind that you are totally relaxed with her. She doesn't "faze" you.
This is the opposite of how most men behave around a super hot girl. This dude can't even carry on a normal conversation because he's so scared of saying the WRONG thing and messing it up!
As for Cold Reads, these are STATEMENTS that you make to a woman about herself. It's as if you're playing "psychic" and telling her something about herself that no other dude in the room would ever guess.
A good Cold Read makes you seem to be amazingly perceptive and it immediately establishes a bond between you and the hottie. And the clever thing about an effective Cold Read statement is that they apply to virtually any woman. Whether you say it to your sister, or to a babe at the club, she's going to nod her head and agree with your assessment .
So, the encounter will begin with an effective opener. Then you'll use a Transition (or "Bridge") tactic to get the conversation onto the right type of subject. And then, you will tactfully use Teases and Cold Reads.
Example of a Tease: "Cindy, I gotta say, I misjudged you at first. I can sense that there is a lot more to you than meets the eye...it's too bad you aren't my type." (Then, you change the subject and leave her wondering WHY you just said that...)
And here's a Cold Read: "You know, Cindy, I'm sure that most people get the wrong idea about you when they see you for the first time. You have this tough exterior, but I know it's only because you've been hurt in the past by someone who you really trusted. Since then, you've been cautious about letting new people get close to you. But the funny thing is, they don't realize what a sweet, sincere, sensitive person you truly are."
(This Cold Read works especially well with stunning women, because they are often concerned that people are ONLY judging them based on their looks. Gorgeous girls are often a lot more insecure than you would think, and would like to be recognized for their OTHER qualities -- their intelligence, sense of humor, personality, etc.)
Honestly, it isn't difficult to learn how to approach women. When you merge these techinques with other effective conversational methods, you have the blueprint for a conversation that will trigger all of her "attraction buttons" and and make her genuinely interested and attracted in you. Scoring her phone number will be no problem at all -- and from that point on, you'll be in charge of steering this wherever you want it to go.
It's been gratifying to watch extremely quiet students of mine, who were once scared to meet girls and clueless about how to approach women, transform into "approach machines" who could meet new women every day (even while simply walking down the street!) and continually score digits, dates and even hook-ups the same night.
I'm not talking about an ordinary female here; I'm talking about a stone-cold stunner. You know, the kind of hottie who, when she strolls into a room, causes every guy in the area to stop and look.
So what is the most effective way to approach a girl like THAT? The answer, actually, is quite easy: you use the same approach techniques that I advise you use with any woman, but after you use one of my "transition" moves to engage her in the conversation, you use Teases and Cold Reads to NEUTRALIZE her "hotness factor" and actually use it to your advantage.
What are Teases and Cold Reads? Well, they're two very powerful strategies that you should use when you flirt with women. Essentially, these are a couple of my favorite conversational "weapons."
For the purposes of this article, I'll just tell you real quick that Teases are things that you say to women in a playful way, that plant a very important idea in their brains: that you are NOT an ordinary guy who is bowled over and taken aback by how gorgeous she may be.
When you tease a stunner (the RIGHT way), you're framing the encounter as if you are already familar and comfortable with her, which prompts her to feel the same way with you. When you're hanging out with someone you've known for a while, you're naturally going to tease and joke around with that person. And so, when you tease a scorching-hot stunner, you're planting the seed in her mind that you are totally relaxed with her. She doesn't "faze" you.
This is the opposite of how most men behave around a super hot girl. This dude can't even carry on a normal conversation because he's so scared of saying the WRONG thing and messing it up!
As for Cold Reads, these are STATEMENTS that you make to a woman about herself. It's as if you're playing "psychic" and telling her something about herself that no other dude in the room would ever guess.
A good Cold Read makes you seem to be amazingly perceptive and it immediately establishes a bond between you and the hottie. And the clever thing about an effective Cold Read statement is that they apply to virtually any woman. Whether you say it to your sister, or to a babe at the club, she's going to nod her head and agree with your assessment .
So, the encounter will begin with an effective opener. Then you'll use a Transition (or "Bridge") tactic to get the conversation onto the right type of subject. And then, you will tactfully use Teases and Cold Reads.
Example of a Tease: "Cindy, I gotta say, I misjudged you at first. I can sense that there is a lot more to you than meets the eye...it's too bad you aren't my type." (Then, you change the subject and leave her wondering WHY you just said that...)
And here's a Cold Read: "You know, Cindy, I'm sure that most people get the wrong idea about you when they see you for the first time. You have this tough exterior, but I know it's only because you've been hurt in the past by someone who you really trusted. Since then, you've been cautious about letting new people get close to you. But the funny thing is, they don't realize what a sweet, sincere, sensitive person you truly are."
(This Cold Read works especially well with stunning women, because they are often concerned that people are ONLY judging them based on their looks. Gorgeous girls are often a lot more insecure than you would think, and would like to be recognized for their OTHER qualities -- their intelligence, sense of humor, personality, etc.)
Honestly, it isn't difficult to learn how to approach women. When you merge these techinques with other effective conversational methods, you have the blueprint for a conversation that will trigger all of her "attraction buttons" and and make her genuinely interested and attracted in you. Scoring her phone number will be no problem at all -- and from that point on, you'll be in charge of steering this wherever you want it to go.
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